The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Activities
This
activity has been very beneficial for me my husband is not good at showing
emotion or talking about his feelings and I could tell that I was doing
something that was hurting him I just couldn’t get him to tell me what it was
so that I could change it. However, now since I have been reading this book I
realized that it was my approach in how I talk to him and that I wasn’t making
him feel safe so he wouldn’t tell me what I needed to change. Once I found out
that I was doing it I was able to change my approach and now he is able to tell
me things that are troubling him.
I
really liked learning more about my husband as we played those games in the
book. There were some questions that I didn’t know the answer to but made me
realize that I know more about him than I thought and that knows more about me
than I thought as well. This activity really helped us come closer together as
a couple and helped us to realize what we needed to do different in our lives to
show our love for each other.
I
also tried to ignore the things that he does that annoys me and at first it was
really hard and sometimes I wasn’t not able to keep my voice inside but as the
week went on it got easier and I no longer noticed them as much and I actually
started to think that they were endearing. That was something that I never
thought was possible because I always thought that if you didn’t like something
about someone that you tell them and they change it because that is what I
always do, however, it seems that they world doesn’t work the same way as I do
and it was nice to learn a new way to handle things that annoy me. I also
started replacing ever bad thought that I had about my spouse with a good one
and if I was not able to think of a good one at the time I would just hum a
song in my head so that I didn’t dwell on that fact.
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