Genealogy Effects

My Genogram starts with my paternal grandparents Charles and Evelyn they were married and sealed in the temple and lived in love until they died. They had six children Charlotte, Karl, Dany, Phil, Kathy, and my father Mitchell. They were all married in the temple and all but two of them have been divorced and remarried. My father married my mom and then they were sealed in the temple after which they had five children including me. My dad and mom got divorced in 1996 and them my father remarried in 2002 to MaLinda who also had five kids, my mother has sadly never remarried.

            My maternal grandparents are Hiroko and David they were married when my grandfather was stationed in Japan they had three girls and have since then divorced and my grandfather has died. My mother has a twin that was married in the temple and they are still happily married and her little sister was married and has not remarried since then.

            I learned that usually if you have the right role models and have seen what it means not only to endure but also to love, forgive, have patience, and long suffering that it is what you strive for and something that isn’t out of reach because you have felt it, you have lived it. However, I also learned that just because you have parents who have stayed together forever doesn’t mean that every one of your children will stay together, they are still their own people and therefor will do whatever they want and continue to make their own choices and mistakes. My father had the perfect example of love and long suffering and he was still divorced from my mother through choices and consequences of his own volition. My mother on the other hand had the worst representation of love in her family and yet she was still the one that remained faithful and loving. My mother is a true example of a forgiving person and I can only hope to be at least half of the person that she is.

            One person can have an effect on many generations. In my Genogram it shows that my parents are divorced what it doesn’t show is what happened to come to the final decision to get a divorce. This, however, is shown generations later where my older brothers and sister who saw the extent of the horrible things my father did to my mother are not married and to be quite honest have turned to drugs and alcohol many different times. They are almost 30 years old and most of them have not had a steady relationship and those that have are not going to commit because they want to make sure they have an escape route just in case. My little sister who was only 5 when they got divorced craved love so much that she got married right out of high school to someone who is emotional abusive because she thinks that’s what love is.